Recognise the signs

Recognise The Signs of Domestic Violence – The term Domestic Violence covers a wide list of violence and abuse against a person and can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused or denied. Noticing and acknowledging the signs of an abuse relationship or against another person is the first step to ending it.

One woman in four (and one man in six) in the UK will be a victim of domestic violence during their lifetime, according to research estimates.

two women a week are killed by a current or former male partner

We think of domestic violence as hitting, slapping and beating, but it can also include emotional abuse as well as forced marriage and so-called “honour crimes”.
It’s abuse if your partner or a family  member:

  • threatens, shoves or pushes you – makes you fear for your physical safety
  • puts you down, or attempts to undermine your self-esteem
  • controls you, for example by stopping you seeing your friends and family
  • is jealous and possessive, e.g. being suspicious of your friendships and conversations
  • frightens you

“The only illusion is if you think it was her choice. one in six women are victims of abuse. Stop abuse against women”

NHS Choices: provides a list of things to help you recognise the signs as early as possible and seek help. http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/abuse/Pages/signs-domestic-violence.aspx

you don’t have to wait for an emergency situation

  • Seek help – talk to a friend , a relative, your doctor, health visitor or midwife
  • In an emergency, call 999

If you decide to leave

The first step in escaping an abusive situation is realising that you’re not alone and it’s not your fault. Try to get advice from an organisation such as Women’s Aid or Refuge before you go.

If you’re considering leaving, be careful who you tell. It’s important that your partner doesn’t know where you’re going. Planning is very important. If you decide to leave, it will help to take:

  • documents, including birth certificates for your children, passports, any medical
  • records, benefits books, and mortgage or rent details
  • your address book
  • house keys
  • if you have young children: baby items, some clothes and a special toy for each child

 Survivor’s Handbook from the Women’s Aid Charity 

This handbook is free and provides information on a wide range of issues such as housing, money and your legal rights.

The handbook is available as a downloadable PDF in 11 languages http://www.womensaid.org.uk/landing_page.asp?section=0001000100080004

 

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